There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese. (beautiful but not convincing, if you ask me)
Thumb represents your Parents
Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings
Middle finger represents your Self
Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner
& Last (Little) finger represents your Children
And it becomes even more beautiful and convincing (cough):
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together – back to back
Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb – tip to tip
Now, try to Separate your Thumbs (representing the parents). They will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong and have to leave you sooner or later. (like doh, they have a life too, you know)
Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings). They will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives. (of course, can you imagine how crowded your house will be otherwise?)
Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children). They will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day. (oh, thank God!)
Husband and Wife have to remain together all their lives – through thick and thin! (through who? who are those two guys)
ISN’T THIS A LOVELY THEORY? Oh, it is. A theory. Have you seen the divorce rate lately?
No. I’m not sarcastic. Not by default at least. This is how people think nowdays.
You don’t get married because you love a person.
You don’t get married because you will fight hand in hand with them whenever a problem kicks in.
You don’t get married because you know/feel that you’ll stand by their side whatever happens (and they’ll do the same for you).
You don’t get married because you have the same values, principles.
You don’t get married because you feel (and know in some realistic percent) that you can raise a kid with that person.
You don’t get married because you know you’ll stay together over the years because you like that person head to toe, soul to heart.
You don’t get married because at the bottom of your relationship is friendship and understanding and respect.